Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Appalled and Utterly Speechless

I know I haven't written a blog post in a year (gasp, I know) but after what happened to me last night, I had to resurrect my blog just to showcase the ugliness that still exists in some people.

I met Mr. Gun Show via Match last Tuesday where he winked/emailed me. I thought he was a little young for me (29, gasp!) but he was cute and seemed to have a great profile. He had a great job (Physician's Assistant) and came from a great family. The biggest drawback was that he lived three hours away in Fresno.

We started texting and he was very consistent with it. We finally spoke two days later and we set up a coffee date for Saturday afternoon, around 3 once he was off work.

I woke up at 7:00 a.m. on Saturday and drove to Fresno. After having lunch and getting pedicures with my girlfriends, he texted and asked if I really wanted to meet him. (RED FLAG #1) I assured him I did and we met at 3:30. I was a few minutes late because I had to drive across town in the rain and he was sitting there at a table. He didn't get up to greet me, just said hi (RED FLAG #2) as I sat down. I had to get up to get my own tea which I had to buy myself (RF #3). Sat down and he had his body completely turned away from me so that his shoulder was facing me. The conversation was stilted and awkward. (TOO MANY RED FLAGS TO CONTINUE TO COUNT)

Finally, after 45 minutes, we exited Starbucks. It's pouring down rain and he just turns to get into his car without a handshake, "it was nice to meet you", nothing. Just turned around and left.

The crazy then starts. He texts, "that was so awkward' and "i can't believe i hustled to leave work early for that" to which I replied, "I'm sorry I inconvenienced you by driving three hours to meet you." Finally he calls me so that we're not going back and forth on text.

He proceeds to berate me for not giving him a chance nor allowing him to get to know me. I know I have walls and I know I have issues, but I was reacting to the vibe he gave off. After about a half hour, he asks if we could have dinner to start over. In my quest to try to break down some of those walls, I relented and agreed. We meet for dinner and had a really great time and ended with a quick peck. Seems normal enough right?

He decides he wants to drive up to meet me on his day off, which I thought was great. I was looking forward to seeing him again. He texted last night and asked how things were going, to which I replied, "I'm at Bible Study, can I call you at 9:30 when we're done?" "Are u sure u have time for a relationship?" "Yes, I always make time for what's important."

We finally talk at 10:15 and he tells me that because I go to Bible Study groups and teach preschool, I should become a nun. (Yes, I'll pause while you pick your jaw up off the floor)

Then he says that he was talking to a friend of his about me and was saying that he thought I was abnormal because religion "is all i ever seem to do." (Disclosure, it plainly outlines this in my Match profile ... since he contacted me, there shouldn't have been any surprises, right?)

At this point, I'm rendered speechless and tell him he completely disrespected me and I thought he was being mean and hurtful, to which he said he didn't think so. I said "Take care" and hung up on him. Then he texts, "that's why ur single."


I don't respond and then he calls me. Against my better judgement, I picked up the phone to which he says it's rude to hang up on people. We continue to go back and forth arguing and I just tell him that I don't want him to come up, we're too different and we want different things.

Then I schooled him on picking up the $2 tab for a coffee date and standing up to greet someone and properly saying goodbye.

Sigh! It's not often I am speechless, but just wow. Oh well, onto bigger and better things.

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